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Stiletto’s SISTER’S and Stripper’s

Published November 12, 2013 by tressalee
Tips for Lovers

Tips for Lovers

I’m creating a new film for women who used to are still or who are thinking about getting into the BIZ of STRIPPING…my first thoughts are DON’T, my second thoughts are be careful and listen to what I say…

First…Keep it BUSINESS… it’s never personal, although you must be a great actress and pretend it’s personal for the customer’s sake… I mean for your wallet or purse sakes.

Then NEVER and I MEAN NEVER DO DRUGS…save your the three F’S…your beautiful Figure,  Face and Finances…

I’m now fifty one danced for twemty some odd years and still rock this bod,y brain and no BOOZE…take your supplements and get lots of beauty sleep. The men will take a lot of your energy, so you must replenish, plus have time to spend with your wonderful amazing children (if any) and or family.

Keep balanced GRASSHOPPA and exercise, meditate and be grateful

Keep eating well and DANCE LOVE


please give to my FILM im making for women of the clubs


Strippers Today…

Published February 12, 2013 by tressalee


I remember the beginning days of my career as a stripper…which I didn’t know at the time I was going to turn it into a career. Maybe it was an addiction more than a career. You could say I was addicted to paying my bills and taking care of my kids, ya know feeding and clothing them. All of the other girls were in the same boat when I started, we kept our stripping on the QT hush. It was not cool to strip back when we were doin it (in the 80’s). It was very taboo, so you didn’t tell people exactly what you did for a living. “Yeah, Im a waitress or a barmaid I sew socks for a living” anything but the cold HARD truth, people would have looked at you like your a weirdo and we were just normal girls with no daddies and no education (this is the norm for a stripper). But let me tell ya, the pay was quite handsome, along with the tips and back then men didn’t touch you or they would get their asses booted out of the club.

There was a high regard for the stripper gals back when I started, men put us on pedestals literally, thats where we danced and they really had to look up to us, in all senses of the words. These days working in the clubs you get No Respect Rodney, giving a blow job is just like putting on your g-string and heels do they even rinse their moths from patron to patron?… it has become the norm and very much expected from the customers, YIKES! If you do not perform, and I’m not talking on stage, no body is interested and you may walk out with ten bucks cuz a nice guy felt sorry for you…last time I worked I saw the girls in the V.I.P. doing, not dances but sex acts, as if it was just natural “sit down and take off your pants” wtf??? I freaked out on them and told them how they were wrecking the business (almost got punched out). The guys now get to pay less and less for more and more cant the girls see they are cutting off their pay. If you give away the goods at a rate that says you are worth nothing, thats what you will get, nothing and feel like NOTHING.  I tried to explain to these new young gals, men will pay more for less, it’s about the chase, the fantasy, they have their ears covered and think I’m an old bitch (I am)…Women who have never been in the strip clubs, dont know how it has changed, it used to be men and women cold go without such threatening behavior going on. It was innocent back in my stripper days and men had respect for the gals.

Today the girls bring out a menu…The days specials are: Blow job $50, and thats high, hand job $20, they will sit down on a man’s penis and ride without a condom I dont know what they charge for that. The bars where I worked would not put up with it. In fact if you were caught touching a guy in any manner or him touching you, you were fined $100.00 or more. These days the owners encourage their girls to do the nasty and they take their cut for sure…I think they call these places BROTHELS not Gentlemen’s Clubs. The girls never fight back, of course how can you when you are on drugs, so its a lose lose situation..But win win for the club owners. They pay off the cops and there ya go ready for round two of hookerville. I am sad because we had a good tight circuit of girls and women who worked the clubs as professionals and I don’t mean of the night. They all had families to take care of most were single mothers trying to get through school. Now the girls say hey I just gave two head jobs geeze is my jaw tired. They make fun like its normal behavior. Desensitized thats what the strippers today are and taken advantage of. They think they got it over on men, well the sex abuse is all over them and they don’t even realize it… Painful to see, it was bad enough to strip for the many years I did, I watched the business evolve into shit encouraging their girls to be whores and getting them hooked on drugs and alcohol. Good job club owners but they see the almighty $$ and that is what rules their world and the poor women they are slaves to the pimp like bosses and to the $$ themselves…

Sure there was always prostitution but you would never know which girl did the dirty deeds because they were all lady like about it and kept their little mouths shut about it. Nowadays they don’t mind tellin’ everyone what they did the night before and how much they got for doin it…Did they say how much crack they bought ? yeah that too! Who needs to know the rotten details well, you can see them just go into your local club and purchase a lap-dance which is now a face dance or a coochie dance…wtf happened? Women love yurselves…It’s tuff in this world of competition and no jobs…oh their are jobs, just Pucker- Up and Blow…


Disillusioned Old Stripper 😉


THE LOVE PROJECT…Tips for couples

Published November 19, 2012 by tressalee

Tips for Lovers

Yeah, Tips for this and that do they work?

Well, the toothpaste thingy for patching holes in your walls does work, I’ve tried it…it’s cheap and no mess!

The book “The Love Project” is  also cheap with minimal mess… and it also works. It’s so funny, I wrote a true account of a strippers life and my editor said “Hold on, this is too raunchy and true your first book should come in like a lamb” so she toned it down and took out the dirty-nasty parts and created what we now have as  our little somewhat stringent “Tip book” from a strippers point of view…Hmmm? is that possible? Yes, and now I am in the middle…I am no longer categorized in the “Fifty Shades of Grey porn category and too hard-sexy for the Bible belt arena, where I am writing this from now…

Where does a Semi-Christian-Liberal thinking retired Stripper take her book from here?…what a mess, I feel like I’m on the Isle of Mis-fit toys. I am having a book signing in Columbus Mississippi, Saturday December 8th. I know you will stomping down the doors. The local Fox Rock radio station will be broadcasting and interviewing us from Fantasyland (an adult venue, SEX-SHOP). Gotta start somewhere, even tho the book is not about Kinky Karma-Sutra positions it is a couples Love Story to help lovers understand each other and have a better quality relationship…Did I turn you off? Well, its up to you to turn on your partner, I jut give hints and practical applications, a guide for lost lovers…

Where do the lost get this book? If your in Northern Mississippi in a few Saturdays from now you can meet me (the author) and my man (the guinea pig) who will be scantily clad, teaching and promoting on the “How too’s” of coupling without homicidal acts…I didn’t say thoughts. I cannot guarantee this won’t happen. Just hope to renew and reignite passion and love for all who seek.

To Order your Love Project Tip Book

With Love Tressa



Published October 15, 2012 by tressalee

Make it FUN tonite!

Hey Guys and Dolls…what does your relationship need? Well, Stripper’s know all of the tricks and tactics of the trade, take some advice and have some fun too!

Put on show, yes Love can be a show, guys love it and you will like it too. Play dress up, it’s fun to pretend like your someone else. Maybe he needs to be someone else for a while, instead of that creep who always comes home wanting some food, that you never make. Order a pizza and get to the bedroom with a bottle of vino. Life is tough, take a break!
With Love from the pole…Tressalee

LOVE…It is a Project

Published February 3, 2012 by tressalee

Okay, here we are again in the month of LOVE I mean February (that I can never spell right). That dirty four letter word that men hate and women adore. Why is that? Men fear Love, it’s a four letter word that is synonymous with TRAP, BITCH, CASH (theirs not yours), ROPE, CHAIN oh thats five letters, alright you fill in the rest.LOVE IS LIKE A FLOWER...plastic sometimes

So how do you get him to simply adore you, to LOVE you?  Shhh not so loud he will hear you. We have to do this on the sly, it’s a bit of trickery my dears.

Oh yeah, at first its all fun and games, then somebody wants to poke someone’s eye out.

I remember the texts filled with, I want you, I need you, I cant wait to be near you…5 yrs later..I get texts from crickets…actually barely any texts let alone LOVEY texts. It’s the  “Hey did you fill out that paper I need”? text, or “I am too tired to talk, I will call you tomorrow” text… wink, wink.

LOVE is a PROJECT, a NASA TOP SECRET PROJECT. But you don’t have to work at NASA or in the government, or be a gum shoe to figure it out, just being a woman will suffice. Cuz we’re cool like that and we know how to manipulate situations, we have boobs and other awesome ammo. ;0

How do we keep those fires burning like an out of control Californian wild fire?

PRETEND! YES, that is my advice to all of my girls, ladies, women reading this. Because honestly, honesty doesn’t work. Bitching is what they hear when you open your mouth, unless you are going to put it to good use, hmm? Think about it. Yeah, singing, sing to him, he loves that.

After two years of a deep relationship talking things out never works unless you dangle your panties in front of him and he still cant hear what your saying, while drool is dangling from his mouth. Sad but true we are dealing with animals girls. I thought, not mine he is an intellect and he has a feminine side that is just like me. He was lying, guys can mimmick very well and for a time when they are in the hunt they will become your girlfriend. This is false advertisement as we clearly find out. But when time marches on and he no longer has to be a preditor because he has won his prey, we ask where did that emotional connection go? …He was faking it!

What about the REAL emotional connection like the one you get from meeting that girl in the ladies room in the two minutes while you were fixing your makeup, hair and straigtening out your panty lines. By the time you leave the bathroom you have laughed cried and told her your deepest fears about life and love, you probably exchanged numbers (you girls are weirdos, hey I’m a girl). You have just connected and made a new close friend all in the matter of 2.5 minutes. Thats a real connection try gettin that from a five year relationship with your man.

You know writers take liberties and I exaggerate for entertainment purposes. BUT agree with me that its hard to reach that part of your man’s left brain that is filled with compartments only other men can reach…so we’re fucked! Not so fast they need us and we need them no matter how we all deny it..God made this project and he is gonna see it through…damn it! Okay he left the building with ELVIS but gals, we can do this!

Back to Faking…Oh it is a built in mechanism that we can fake it. Everyone of us has and we will continue till the end of time. I mean in the relating part of the relationship too. Not just in the boudoir.

To get along with our Neanderthal (I mean Hunnie) just be nice…Yes its that simple. Okay PRETEND to be nice, its not that simple when you want to reach for that knife while his back is turned and stab him oh, at least thirteen to fourteen times in the neck. Stop yourself and think of the house payment or that kick ass new pair of $100.00 Jessica Simpson shoes you have to have. Put the knife down and smile at him your sexiest fakest smiles…he may know the difference but you know what they say Fake it till you make it!

Okay now that you have got it straight you are to be a lying, pretending, slut…we will continue our project on Monday…More tips to come

have a great weekend gals!

Your friend Tressalee


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